Chilling Message to Me From an Admitted Pedophile That I Want All Mom Bloggers to See
Yesterday, at 11:56 p.m., from a location/IP address that purpously cannot be tracked, an admitted pedophile left me the following chilling comment in response to my recent post titled: Pedophiles, Stalkers and My Sold-Out Kids Hating Me - Just the Tip of My Mom Blogging Fears:
"There are many reasons why you shouldn't use real names on the internet and the 'evil pedos!' aren't the main reason.
When did a paedophile become a child molester? Do you understand the difference? Do you care?
With the merging of the terms 'paedophile' and 'child molester', people become more concerned than they should be about paedophiles and less concerned than they should be about child molesters.
I know you'll be concerned that a paedophile has found your blog, but I'm not attracted to kids younger than 8 anyway, nor do I engage in sexual activity with children.
I also have images from external servers turned off in my browser to prevent IPs being logged on external servers, so you don't need to worry about me (OMG!) seeing pictures of your kids.
The fact is that paedophiles (and that doesn't mean 'child molesters') will find your blog, because there are more of us than you believe.
You shouldn't use real names on the internet, regardless of whether you're concerned about 'paedophiles'. "
I didn't get a wink all night and in the morning switched my children's names to quirky pseudonyms.
Did I let fear get the best of me? Did I let the anonymous, untrackable admitted pedophile win? Yes, I believe I did. But if my (over?) reaction saves my precious children from a very real, quite potential threat, then I'm positive I did the right thing.
Now onto the work of removing ALL of my children's real names from all of my postings. Thankfully I only have to sift through a month or so of postings on my newbie blog.
While I don't wish comments from an admitted pedophile on any mom bloggers, I'm somewhat thankful that this happened to me because it will forever, somewhat sadly, alter and safety filter the words and images I choose to use when revealing information about the three smallest people I love and protect the most.
I know it’s odd but I can't help but feel guilty for innocently showing off cute images and anecdotes of my kids in such a carefree way in the first place. Did I do something wrong? Was I an irresponsible parent?
It's sad that mothers can't simply share our life stories with one another, and SAHM and working mom bloggers so need to hear each other to know that they are not alone in their beautiful chaos, without fearing twisted adults who prey on children. Without fearing that our children’s images will become eye candy for pedophiles and child molesters.
I enthusiastically started 8 Cm Deluded only five or so weeks ago and last night I seriously considered forever pulling the plug on it. And it's not off the chopping block yet. I won’t decide until my nerves calm.
By the way mister anonymous pedophile who left me bone-chilling comments, I did learn the difference between a pedophile and a child molester. Since my recent education at dictionary.com, I don't feel any wiser, just sicker:
child molester: a man who has sex (usually sodomy) with a boy as the passive partner [syn: pederast, paederast] Hey, I'm sadly sure that women are child molesters as well?
pedophile: noun Psychiatry. an adult who is sexually attracted to young children. Also, pedophiliac.
posted by Domestic Slackstress @ 11:07 PM
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It's truly saddening that someone would go out of his way to justify his perversion on your blog. Frightening, too. However, I don't think that removing your blog from existence would stop these kinds of people from doing what they do. They exist, whether we like it or not. We just have to make a concerted effort to protect our families from snooping eyes. You are making this effort, and that's cool.
Also, don't feel guilty about sharing stories about your family. One of the differences between a water cooler conversation and a blog is the fact that people from all over the world can stumble across your internet posting and gain some insight into your subject matter. My point is this: the same thing that makes a blog so amazing is the same thing that makes it scary.
Despite all this, I suggest you keep your blog rolling...you have people on your side!
Just because somebody on the Internet claims to be a pedophile doesn't make it true. It might be, it might not. It could just be some loser that takes perverse pleasure in reading this post about how uncomfortable he made you.
I find it very suspicious that an admitted pedophile just happened across your blog the week you were talking about your fears related to pedophiles. I doubt these guys are googling to see what the world thinks of them.
Just because somebody on the Internet claims to be a pedophile doesn't make it true. It might be, it might not. It could just be some loser that takes perverse pleasure in reading this post about how uncomfortable he made you.
I find it very suspicious that an admitted pedophile just happened across your blog the week you were talking about your fears related to pedophiles. I doubt these guys are googling to see what the world thinks of them.
Scary-whether or not the person was in fact a pedophile. Still some creepy scary person. This is part of why I don't necessarily have a problem using my kids names on my blog-but I won't use my own or my husband's-hard for somebody to find your kids if they don't know who YOU are (but I'm even re-thinking this policy now). And I don't really want to post too many photos, if any at all.
The only thing the person's right about is that there are other reasons to be careful what you put on the internet-identity theft is another thing to watch out for. I read somewhere once this advice: Don't put anything on the internet that you wouldn't want displayed on a mile high billboard for all to see. Because it's just about the same thing.
There are a lot of bloggers out there who put everything on their blog-address, names, pictures, everything. I always wondered how they felt safe doing that. This is definitely something that requires further thought.
the best thing we can do is to be aware of the ever present danger from sexual predators - and you've done an important job of reminding us of that. i was horrified recently to learn that when police in my area used cctv at a visiting fair, they recorded many known sex offenders hanging out, watching, waiting maybe, and taking advantage of the distraction provided by the fair to get closer to children than they normally could. chilling - isn't it?
"The only thing the person's right about is that there are other reasons to be careful what you put on the internet-identity theft is another thing to watch out for."
Well, that was the point of his post! Beyond that, he makes it very clear that his perversion does not mean that he molests (or is waiting or taking advantage etc).
I just sort of feel that people are missing the point here, which is the paedophile is doing no harm but warning that there are plenty of people (whether attracted to children or not) who might. It feels like the focus has changed to him as the prime aggressor.
You know that people like him (and much much worse!) exist. That isn't a reason to give up your blog.
These points are all well and good, and anybody that is going to publish their life or fractions there of, is going to have to have these debates and come to their own conclusion.
The aspect that concerns me is that so many of us, society, the greater population seem to have accepted that this is the way it is, and that these people are out there and we need to live with it. Screw that, I can't take that approach, not with three kids. I think that it is imperative for all people, especially parents that we not only take a vigilant stance, but an aggressive pro-active stance against this mentallity.
This is not acceptable, dispite what the man said, pedophilic or molester, they are both EXTREMELY DESTRUCTIVE to the child, in my opion tantamount to murder, for you are actually murdering the childs innocence and therefor forever changing the course of their life.
So, my plea to every one out there is that this level of acceptance can not be tolerated and it is our job to protect the childern. Shout scream, do what ever it takes to SHUT THEM DOWN and report their activity.
www.perverted-justice.com
These points are all well and good, and anybody that is going to publish their life or fractions there of, is going to have to have these debates and come to their own conclusion.
The aspect that concerns me is that so many of us, society, the greater population seem to have accepted that this is the way it is, and that these people are out there and we need to live with it. Screw that, I can't take that approach, not with three kids. I think that it is imperative for all people, especially parents that we not only take a vigilant stance, but an aggressive pro-active stance against this mentallity.
This is not acceptable, dispite what the man said, pedophilic or molester, they are both EXTREMELY DESTRUCTIVE to the child, in my opion tantamount to murder, for you are actually murdering the childs innocence and therefor forever changing the course of their life.
So, my plea to every one out there is that this level of acceptance can not be tolerated and it is our job to protect the childern. Shout scream, do what ever it takes to SHUT THEM DOWN and report their activity.
www.perverted-justice.com
Here, here, pissed off dad. Thanks for your comments. I can appreciate your anger. I'm right there with you.
I'm flabergasted that Google is advertising for Child Molestation Defense lawyers on my site at this very minute. Disgusted. So, in addition to changing my kids' names to pseudonyms, I also have to remove my ads???? Damn it.
No you don't have to remove your ads, just go to your AdSense account and click "AdSense Setup", then the "Competitive Ad Filter" and add in the urls you wish not to advertise. It works like a charm. I keep all the anti-home birth sites at bay that way :)
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